Is the American dream dead – can you be all you want to be?

Have you ever heard the expression “Be All You Can Be”? Even though that slogan had its limitations, it was used in the Army for over 21 years to inspire young recruits to do their best and be their best at all times. Truth is that being all you can be is not just for the Army. It is a choice that everyone has in life. It is about how you want to live your life and who you want to be. Be all you can be! – signifies the American dream, a dream that was coined in 1931 by Historian James Truslow Adams: “The American Dream… in which each man and each woman shall be able to attain to the fullest stature of which they are innately capable.” Each man and woman would have the opportunity to be all they can be and live a life of their choice. Sadly these days,

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Women’s Wellness and Empowerment: An Inspired Perspective

Just last week, I was watching a public television broadcast about the women’s movement in the 1970’s, and was incredibly struck by how much positive transformation we’ve seen in the last 40 years. While I certainly do recall those days, it’s now hard to relate to a time when we were so personally and culturally disempowered. Fast forward to 2009 and the Vancouver Peace Summit, when the Dalai Lama made his now-famous quote: “The world will be saved by the Western woman.” This is thrilling, not just for women but for our world: in just a few decades we have created a global culture which recognizes the extreme imbalance of male/female energy that has existed for many thousands of years, and the serious problems resulting from this imbalance. I’ve often reflected on the Dalai Lama’s invitation to us, and here’s

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Begin Again – Welcome to My World!

Have you ever dreamed of ditching your life and beginning again? Six years ago, I did just that, walking away from a reasonably successful law career in New York. Why? For me, it was the only possible choice. My life in New York left me burnt out and miserable. Every morning, when I woke up, my first thought was “I hate my life.” I knew if I didn’t make some real changes, I was looking at a lifetime of unhappy. I couldn’t let that be an option. I moved south, to Charlotte, NC where I had two acquaintances. That was ok, it was comforting to know there were people I could call for the name of a restaurant or a doctor. My alone-less forced me to be proactive to find my people. I had to step outside of my comfort

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The Realities of Relocation: Crisis and Opportunity

The influence of “place” on our psyches is a dynamic influence for each of us. Whether the serene beauty of a forest in the morning, the energizing pulse of a city at nightfall, the cozy clutter of a parlor in a fire lit colonial home or the clear Zen-like atmosphere of our home office, the impact of “place” upon our mind, body and spirit is enormous yet often simply perceived as a context we take for granted—until we relocate. We can attach to a place we call home and seek to remain there under all conditions. We can light upon a place for a time and then feel compelled to move on. There are the absolute demands of relocation for the sake of work or relationship and times that relocation requires a temporary (or permanent) separation from partner or family

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